Do you think God gave you a sex drive just to torture you until you get married?

aaaaaMany people confuse sexual drives with sinful desires. Though sexual drives, like all drives, can become sinful, they’re holy in their raw state (by Stephen W. Simpson, PhD)

So a couple of months ago I read an article online which made me ask myself this question. Why did God have to make me feel the way I feel? Did God make a mistake? Being a 24 year old and not married, as far as I can remember I have being experiencing my sexual feelings since my early teens. “It’s wrong and I am not supposed to feel this way I am not married”, I kept telling myself. It became a burden, like a curse because I was supposed to preserve myself and handle myself as someone representing Christ. But is God just torturing me until I get married?

Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”l 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife,m and likewise the wife to her husband (NIV) 1 Corinthians 7:1-3 

5 Do not deprive each other expect perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer… (NIV) 1 Corinthians 7:5

Later on in my Christian walk I realized having a sex drive is not unholy at all. In Corinthians Apostle Paul outlined the fact that husbands and wives are supposed to fulfill their marital duties and not to deprive each other of these duties expect when they have a mutual consent to devote to prayer. I realized actually having a sex drive is something that will come in handy once one gets married. It will come a time when you will need it in order to fulfill certain marital duties, it will come a time when you will need to use that sex drive to start a family and have kids. It will come a time when you will be thankful to God for giving you such a gift. So bottom line is using you sex drive comes as a gift and its very biblical its not unholy at all its just the timing that is important which is AFTER MARRIAGE.

Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion (NIV) 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 

Sexual immorality is still occurring today if not worse than when Apostle Paul wrote this letter to the people of Corinth. He makes a clear statement for widows and unmarried to get married if they can not control themselves otherwise they will burn with passion… Something that burns you will come as a gift, it will come as a blessing after you get married it seems like it can be a thorn and it can be a blessing all depending on the TIMING.

So did God give you a sex drive to torture you until you get married?

This is what I think, sex drive is not there to torture me or anyone else. Truth is… and I am sure most people will agree with me, if I didn’t have a sex drive or burning with passion I wouldn’t even be considering getting married, I would play video games all the time and only think of when is the next FIFA or battlefield game coming out. This is simply because why would I need more responsibilities when I could be having fun? …But here is the thing even after marriage as Apostle Paul said there will be times when you won’t be able to have sex like when you are devoting yourself to prayer or pregnant or for other reasons. One still has to control themselves and stay faithful when deprived of sex even in marriage. So if you can’t control your sex drive now before you are married what makes you think you will be able to do so when you are married?

You still need to have the sex drive now before you get married, not because its torture but because you are being prepared for the future. Having to control your sex drive is not only important now it is also important even after you get married. It’s a test you need to pass without fail, without any compromise because if not your marriage will just be a disaster waiting to happen.

Have a blessed day :)

Heart hidden in Christ

images (9)A life hidden in Christ is a purpose driven life. Now its end of year, they are goals we were able to achieve and some we were couldn’t. Either way whether you had a great year or a difficult  year you should be thankful. Because we are hidden in Christ as each year comes and goes its getting us closer to our God designed destiny.

It’s a road that is bumpy yes, it’s a road that is full of smiles and full of tears but its all worth it. We have to keep our eyes on the prize. There is surely more in this life than studying, getting a job, paying bills, getting married etc. I am sure God didn’t design you just to work and pay bills. God designed you for more and equipped you with good things. Because you have being raised with Christ you should set your heart on things above. Let your heart be hidden in Christ. When you go before God go seeking for his face, go seeking to have a relationship with Christ, don’t just go asking for gifts. Seek him to know him personally so he can be the great I AM in your life.

What good is it if we say we are Christians and not yet know the God we serve? What good is it if we don’t have a relationship with him? Making Jesus your personal Lord and Savior is more than a confession. Confessing with your mouth is just the beginning, you have to seek his heart and establish a relationship with him. Like every relationship it requires work, commitment and sacrifice and it’s all on your efforts.

Have a blessed day :)

God gives you what you don’t deserve

bbbI know its being long since I have published on my blog, I am just happy today i have the chance to share with you the greatness of God. This is a story that started October last year after I received a certain award and someone approached me and told me in my face that I don’t deserve to get the award. I was hurt and truthfully it bothered me for sometime. All that changed when Pastor G said one statement in one of his sermons that changed my life and my thinking. He said “If you are Christian and you get what you deserve you haven’t started praying.”

I have thought about this statement and I have realized I troubled myself for so long because someone said a statement which was actually true. He/She may have said it not in this context but it’s also true. God gives us things we don’t deserve because we have known and trusted in him. He died so we don’t have to die in our sins, he had all those stripes inflicted on his body so that we will be healed, he did all that not because we deserve but because he is a God who gives us what we don’t deserve. One year later i received the same award again making it 2 years in a row not because I deserve it but because I have known the King. God just proved to me how big he is and like I said in my previous post the battle is not yours. The battle was never yours. If you try and fight it you will loose because you were never made fit to fight the battle. The battle is the Lord’s. 2 Chronicles 20:15

Have a blessed day :)

God bless you all

The battle is not yours


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2 Chronicles 20:15-17 He said: “Listen, King Jehoshaphat and all who live in Judah and Jerusalem! This is what the Lord says to you: ‘Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army. For the battle is not yours, but God’s. 16 Tomorrow march down against them. They will be climbing up by the Pass of Ziz, and you will find them at the end of the gorge in the Desert of Jeruel. 17 You will not have to fight this battle. Take up your positions; stand firm and see the deliverance the Lord will give you, Judah and Jerusalem. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Go out to face them tomorrow, and the Lord will be with you.’”

Many times we want to take the wheel and drive and we forget our driving only leads to accidents. We look at the army we are facing and we get scared and discouraged about life so much that we forget the God we serve. We forget the battle is not ours to fight, we forget it’s not our place to worry about how big the army is. How big the situation we are facing is, how intense the persecution is. God is the the Lord who said he will go before us and level all the mountains and break all the iron gates.

We don’t have to fight all we supposed to do is take our positions, stand firm and see the hand of God at work. We not supposed to drive but let him drive our lives and take us where he wants us to be. All we have to do is be witnesses of the hand of God at work. As we rise up each morning all we need to do is have faith in God and we will be upheld, if we are obedient to his word we will be successful. When God fights your battles you don’t need to worry all you need to do is enjoy the results. He doesn’t need you to worry he just wants you to trust him, his ways and his timing.

May God help you not to follow your heart because at times it leads you astray but follow the Holy Spirit because it leads you to where God wants you to be.

Have a blessed week, God bless you all :)

Essence of worship part 2

Just thought I should share this song it encourages me a lot when i am feeling down. Truly there are no words that can describe the greatness of our God. Our brain can never comprehend the greatness of his love. He is an indescribable God we simply don’t have words that can adequately describe his greatness and how much he loves us. He is the God who is above all gods, the God whose love is so great that he gave away his only son for the thing he hates the most which is sin.


Have a blessed week and may God bless the works of your hands :)

SURVIVOR: Your testimony is your ministry part 3


Revelations 12:11 And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death.

Angel Michael and his angels overcame the devil not by prayer, not by fasting, not by missiles but by the word of their TESTIMONY. There is always power in testifying. At times what we need is not praying and fasting for many days for God to show up in our situations but testifying what the Lord has done in our lives. To be his witnesses in all the earth. 

This year I decided to protest in the Rhodes University silent protest as a survivor. Moving out of my comfort zone where no one even knows I am a survivor of sexual violence is a big step for me because its that part of my life I would do anything to forget about. Just the thoughts made me not to sleep at night for a couple of weeks now. No matter how long ago it happened the pain just feels as fresh as yesterday. Yesterday when i collected my survivor t-shirt and listening to what other survivors had to say I realized as much as i want to forget about it its still part of me that i can never change, what i can change is who I am today and who I will be tomorrow. Today I look back and see where God took me from and made me to be the Michael I am today.

When people look at me they see different things good and bad, but when I look at myself I don’t see a friend, a brother, a mentor etc, what I see is someone that used to be broken, someone only the love of God could save and mold him to be who I am today. I see someone who God saved when I was drowning in my hurt and tears. I see someone who was suicidal but God chose him not because they was anything attractive about him. Someone who suffered rejection first hand but God chose him not because he is smart or not because he is perfect, he chose him not because he was not a sinner but he chose him when no one else wanted him. When he was in that state which I believe its the worst state I will ever be in this life. When everyone else rejected me, when everyone else ran away from me that’s when he chose to love and bless me with everything good and to teach me his ways. 

On Friday I will wear my survivor t-shirt not because I am strong enough, not because I am brave I know it will probably break me down. I will still do it because it tells a story of my life, a story of how God’s mercy rewrote my life. Its a story of how God can take anyone from anywhere no matter how bad your situation is and give you a place of influence where your story will change lives. It is my hope that someone may be encouraged and motivated and be able to experience the love that I experienced as well. If I say I am saved the world has to know and understand from which life I was saved from not because I am proud of that life but because that’s what God did and that is what he does, he can do the same for each and every soul on this planet.

As a survivor God saved me and in Christ I am a new creation and my past is now a testimony. He replaced that old linen with his truth in my life. 

2 Corinthians 5:17-Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

Have a blessed day :)

Father’s day message

I may not be a father and I may not know how it is like to be one, but what I do know is being a son and I know what sons expect from their fathers.

Being a father is more than just being the head of the family.
Its more than having authority in the house.
Its more than what a family can and can’t do for you,
Rather its about what you can do for them.
Its not about what your father’s did not do for you,
But what you can do for your children.

Its not about how you were raised,
Its about how you will raise your children.
Being a father is not part time,
Its about being there for your family all the time.

Being a father is about mentoring your children
Its about being a role model for your children.
Its about your children wanting to be like you.
Its about showing that kind of love,
The kind of love our FATHER in heaven shows us.

Being a father is about fighting for you family on your knees
Its never about taking a back seat.
Its about praying, teaching and leading your family closer to Christ

Being a father is about mentoring sons to be great fathers for the next generation. Building a generation that fears God is not in the hands of your sons but in your hands. They will be what you make them to be.

What makes a man a father is not sleeping with a woman but being there for the children after they are born (Michael)