So a couple of months ago I read an article online which made me ask myself this question. Why did God have to make me feel the way I feel? Did God make a mistake? Being a 24 year old and not married, as far as I can remember I have being experiencing my sexual feelings since my early teens. “It’s wrong and I am not supposed to feel this way I am not married”, I kept telling myself. It became a burden, like a curse because I was supposed to preserve myself and handle myself as someone representing Christ. But is God just torturing me until I get married?
Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”l 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife,m and likewise the wife to her husband (NIV) 1 Corinthians 7:1-3
5 Do not deprive each other expect perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer… (NIV) 1 Corinthians 7:5
Later on in my Christian walk I realized having a sex drive is not unholy at all. In Corinthians Apostle Paul outlined the fact that husbands and wives are supposed to fulfill their marital duties and not to deprive each other of these duties expect when they have a mutual consent to devote to prayer. I realized actually having a sex drive is something that will come in handy once one gets married. It will come a time when you will need it in order to fulfill certain marital duties, it will come a time when you will need to use that sex drive to start a family and have kids. It will come a time when you will be thankful to God for giving you such a gift. So bottom line is using you sex drive comes as a gift and its very biblical its not unholy at all its just the timing that is important which is AFTER MARRIAGE.
8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion (NIV) 1 Corinthians 7:8-9
Sexual immorality is still occurring today if not worse than when Apostle Paul wrote this letter to the people of Corinth. He makes a clear statement for widows and unmarried to get married if they can not control themselves otherwise they will burn with passion… Something that burns you will come as a gift, it will come as a blessing after you get married it seems like it can be a thorn and it can be a blessing all depending on the TIMING.
So did God give you a sex drive to torture you until you get married?
This is what I think, sex drive is not there to torture me or anyone else. Truth is… and I am sure most people will agree with me, if I didn’t have a sex drive or burning with passion I wouldn’t even be considering getting married, I would play video games all the time and only think of when is the next FIFA or battlefield game coming out. This is simply because why would I need more responsibilities when I could be having fun? …But here is the thing even after marriage as Apostle Paul said there will be times when you won’t be able to have sex like when you are devoting yourself to prayer or pregnant or for other reasons. One still has to control themselves and stay faithful when deprived of sex even in marriage. So if you can’t control your sex drive now before you are married what makes you think you will be able to do so when you are married?
You still need to have the sex drive now before you get married, not because its torture but because you are being prepared for the future. Having to control your sex drive is not only important now it is also important even after you get married. It’s a test you need to pass without fail, without any compromise because if not your marriage will just be a disaster waiting to happen.
Have a blessed day :)